Steve Schloss of West Windsor has spent the past five years deciphering the code to a woman’s heart. A blogger at www.mantomantalks.com, he has written “The Man’s Secret to a Happy and Sexy Marriage in Less Than 10 Minutes a Day” to light a fire in your bedroom. “Instead of having an unhappy, sexless marriage, it is now possible to demonstrate love and commitment to your wife in less than 10 minutes a day,” he says.
Whereas most relationship books analyze the differences between men and women, Schloss takes a more practical approach. He believes men prefer a guide book approach to marriage and romance and shows husbands what their wives need and the things they can do to reactivate the happy and sexy in their marriage now. Schloss focuses on ways of communicating with your wife so that you can hopefully skip months or years of marriage counseling and even forgo divorce.
“Your marriage should be the most important thing in your life,” says Schloss. “Nothing will give you a better return on investment than focusing on having a wonderful, loving relationship.” Suggestions include listening to your wife, helping to fold laundry, making her a handmade card, serving her breakfast in bed, holding her hand, going food shopping together, cleaning her car, telling her you love her, sending her text messages when you are not with her, and many more.
Schloss has experienced a 24-year marriage, a divorce, years of dating, and has been in a loving relationship for three years. He is passionate about relationships and understands what makes them loving and fun. Schloss has spent the past five years deciphering the code to a woman’s heart. Now he privately mentors and coaches single and married men of all ages.
When Schloss was young he viewed marriage as a forever thing. “When I walked down the aisle, I thought marriage was forever,” he says. “Divorce was not common in my family.”
His father, Morton, now 94, was in retail business. His mother, Myra, now 91, was a dance instructor and stay-at-home mom. “They are both independent and healthy,” says Schloss. “They recently celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary.”
Born and raised in Highland Park, Illinois, Schloss graduated from University of Illinois, Urbana, with a bachelor’s degree, and earned an MBA from University of Wisconsin, Madison. He moved to Plainsboro in 1994, choosing the location due to the school system, cost of living, and ease of the commute to New York City. A regional advertising manager at SourceMedia’s Mortgage Publishing Group, he has worked there for more than 18 years.
Both of his children graduated from High School South. His daughter, Niki, 25, does promotions and event planning for Clear Channel in New York City. His son, Dan, 21, is a student at Boston University. A rising senior, he is majoring in physical therapy.
His girlfriend of three years is Anthea Morrow of Washington Crossing, Pennsylvania. An architect, illustrator, cartoonist, book designer, and photographer, she is responsible for the book’s illustrations, design, and photographs.
Despite setbacks in his life Schloss still sees marriage and relationships as beautiful. “The problem is that when we are young we don’t know what we are doing,” he says. “Neither our parents nor schools teach us about selecting a partner, commitment, overcoming problems, and communication.”
Schloss has three upcoming events where he will talk about relationships, sell books, and have booksignings. They are:
Grover’s Mill Coffee House, 335 Princeton Hightstown Road, West Windsor. Sunday, August 4, 2 to 4 p.m. 609-716-8771. www.groversmillcoffee.com.
It’s a Grind Coffee House, 7 Schalks Crossing Road, Plainsboro. Friday, August 9, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. 609-275-2919. www.itsagrind.com.
Lighthouse Cigars, Route 9 South, Morganville. Saturday, August 10, noon to 3 p.m. 732-591-8800. www.lighthousecigars.com.
